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RELATIONSHIP ADVICE
FOR MEN


Become A Better Emotional Partner
to Your Wife or Girlfriend...

WITHOUT SACRIFICING YOUR MASCULINITY


The relationship advice on this web site is a resource for men who are confused about how to make and keep a long term intimate connection with a woman.

This is not a dating web site.

It is not a place for men to come to learn techniques about how to seduce women or how to find the woman of your dreams.

It is a place for men to get some hope that there is a way to save the relationship you have with the woman you are in love with right now...

...even if you've been with her for any number of years and think there is no possible way to relate to her differently given the relationship tools you already possess.

This is a place to learn the skill-set necessary for making a relationship thrive.

It is a place to come for relationship advice that you probably never learned when it came to creating emotional intimacy that leads to better sexual intimacy with a woman in a way that lasts long after the initial fireworks in a relationship have died down.

It is a place to come to learn how to deepen the quality of your intimate relationship so that you both feel that your needs can be met.

And most importantly, this is a place to learn all of the above...

...and not become a wuss in the process!



Not Feeling Much of an Emotional Connection with
Your Wife or Girlfriend These Days?

Do you ever struggle with how to talk to the woman you love about the things that are important to her, like relationships and feelings? Have you achieved career success only to experience frustration or disappointment in your personal relationships? Are you confused by how hard you work to provide and protect your wife and family as a way to show your love, only to hear that love being questioned because you’re not very good at being more “open with your emotions”? And after many times of trying with little success, are you so angry and frustrated that you’ve started to question whether or not this is the right relationship for you? The truth is, a relationship without a solid, ever-growing emotional connection is a relationship out of balance.


You Can Learn How to Create an
Emotionally Healthy Relationship

Being in a healthy relationship shouldn’t be a struggle, but it does require work! A successful love relationship starts with an understanding of what emotional intimacy really is and how BOTH people need to generate it. To achieve that balance, the emotional connection of your relationship needs to become just as important for you to develop—and should feel just as enjoyable and rewarding—as the physical, intellectual, and spiritual connections you have with your wife or girlfriend. Of course, you’ll find it a lot more enjoyable and rewarding if you feel your efforts being appreciated and acknowledged by the woman you love, with the added bonus of feeling closer to her.


What Gets in the Way?

The fact is, the cultural training men receive of what masculine identity should look and feel like is also one of the major obstacles that prevents men from learning about and valuing their emotional world. This in turn puts men at a disadvantage as to how to help create emotional intimacy in a relationship with a woman. Because of this, men have come to fear that knowing and revealing themselves emotionally might somehow bring their manliness into question. The dilemma for men, however, is that until they can educate themselves and practice some very basic but fundamental partnership skills that involve emotional participation, sustaining a healthy long term intimate relationship will remain a mystery.


What You Need To Do –
An Approach That’s Proven to Work

A successful intimate relationship starts with comprehending that your wife or girlfriend will feel alone in the relationship unless she can get more than a brief glimpse of what your emotional world looks and feels like from you. This is actually the best way for you to “show up” in your relationship. A successful long term relationship requires a guy to develop an awareness of how to act and think more like a “we” instead of just going through life only acting and thinking like a “me”. And all of this needs to happen in a way that you feel won’t require you to sacrifice your masculinity!

Check out this web site and see if it can give you some new perspective on questions or problems you may be having with your relationship.


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It is crucial for us as men to become more aware of why we do what we do in our lives, whether we are single or in a relationship.

You can learn more about how we have come to develop what I call our Blind Spots--by subscribing to my FREE monthly newsletter called, Relationships 101 For Men.

Once a month I will send you valuable relationship advice about what works and doesn't work for us in our relationships with women, as well as tips about how to get better at being a partner to her in a way that you don't have to sacrifice your masculinity!

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Contents for this Web Site

The Wake Up Call
How to make the most of your relationship wake up call.

Emotional Immaturity - The Big Mistake
The negative effects of emotional immaturity on an intimate relationship.

Men's Blind Spots
Creating emotional intimacy in a relationship requires awareness of one's own limitations or blind spots.

The Male Stereotype
How men must not accept and "live up" to the doltish male stereotype.

What You Will Learn Here
What you will learn from this web site and the benefits you will gain from Dr. Vierra's Relationship Advice for Men

Relationship Advice For Women
Relationship advice for women wanting to learn why men are the way they are when it comes to intimacy.

Who I Work With
The profile of the types of clients I work with.

How I Can Help
Description of how I help the clients I work with learn the relationship skills necessary to make and keep a relationship happy.

Couples Coaching
Information on the couples coaching I do with my wife.

About Hanalei Vierra, Ph.D., The Relationship Coach for Men
Information about Dr. Hanalei Vierra, who has specialized in working with men and their relationship issues for 18 years.

Contact Me
How to get in touch with Hanalei Vierra, Ph.D. for more information about how you keep your relationship together without sacrificing your masculinity.

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Free Special Report
Download a copy of the free special report, The Unavoidable Relationship Dilemma for Men

Relationship Advice for Men Blog
The Relationship Advice for Men Blog keeps you up to date with all additions and changes to the howtokeepher.com web site. Subscribe here.

Free Intro to Teleclass
Free introductory session to a 4 week teleclass called "How to Get What You Need in Your Relationship"


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