Hanalei Vierra, Ph.D.
The Relationship Coach for Men



Helping men create emotionally satisfying relationships with the woman they love.



I have been a psychotherapist and Relationship Coach for Men for over 27 years. I have a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology and I'm licensed with the state of California as a Marriage & Family Therapist. In my private practice I've specialized in working with men who have emotional "blind spots" when it comes to creating intimacy in their relationships with women.

My particular interest and expertise also lies in working with men who are confused about how to "show up" emotionally in their intimate relationships in a way that doesn’t sacrifice their masculinity in the process. I teach men how to become great partners to their wives and girlfriends by showing them how to get out of the little boy syndrome of emotional immaturity that torpedoes any relationship trying to grow and thrive.


I am also the author of the forthcoming book titled

The TRUE HEART of a MAN
How Healthy Masculinity Will Transform
Your Life, Your Relationships, and the World



I specialize in two related relationship areas:

1) Individual Work - I work with men individually who struggle with how to make and keep a deep emotional connection with their wife or girlfriend.

There are two parts to how I coach men to accomplish this:

    Part A) I help them learn how to validate what women want in a relationship, and how to do that in a way that does not sacrifice their masculinity.

    Part B) I teach men how to “show up” (emotionally) in their relationship by expressing what they really need from their wife or girlfriend, and how to do that in a way that does not sacrifice their masculinity.

2) Couples Counseling – I have worked with my wife who is a licensed Psychologist for over 18 years coaching troubled relationships to clearer communication, deeper intimacy, and healthier partnership. Together we offer troubled couples both a male and female viewpoint of how to create a collaborative team approach to marriage.

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